Whenever something changes in my clients’ sex lives that they do not want, do not like, or are not asking for, I often hear a statement like, “I didn’t sign up for this.”
It is fascinating to me when clients express the expectation that the aspect of their sex life that is changing would stay the same forever. There is this romantic idea of “growing old together” that many couples say they want and look forward to. I have heard something about “rocking chairs on the porch.” Sounds sweet. But nowhere in that idealistic notion are the realities of life. Things change in life and sometimes not for the better. Your health changes. Your body changes. Your stressors change. Relationships change us. Having kids changes us. Aging changes us. Loss changes us.