Gottman's research shows that 69% of marital problems are perpetual problems. Let that sink in a minute. What a bummer. For many couples who come to my office this is a tough reality to accept especially when the perpetual problem is sex. Hopelessness is a common reaction.
But it doesn't have to be this way. With patience, perpetual problems can teach us more about ourselves and help us grow...that is, if we're willing to stretch ourselves psychologically, relationally, and sexually.
Here's a blog from The Gottman Institute that's a primer on how to cope with your relationship's perpetual problems.