Thought you had to go all the way to a major city to see an experienced, sex-positive, kink-knowledgeable, and LGBTQ+ competent therapist and supervisor?
I am the first AASECT Certified Sex Therapist in Sonoma county. And I am the only AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor in Sonoma county.
My specialty is helping adult individuals and couples work through issues related to sexual identity, sexual expression, and sexual relationships.
Sexual issues can happen to anyone and sexual feelings are more than just the sensations in our bodies. Our sexual self is a complex, delicate, and ever-changing fusion of all our parts: the biological, the physical, the psychological, the emotional, the mental, the spiritual.
Our sexuality is a core part of who we are; it is how we express ourselves in and out of the bedroom. If our sex life is suffering then we are suffering. But many people either don't know exactly why sex creates confusing feelings for them or they don't know how to get the sex life they want.
Society tells us that “normal” sexuality means that a person should have a regular and persistent physical sex drive; easy arousal; strong erections and good control over ejaculation for men; powerful (and perhaps multiple) orgasms for both men and women; and a never-ending desire for variety and experimentation. When we are sexual with our partners relationship dynamics can frequently yet quietly happen: dynamics related to gender role expectations, power and control, culture, religion, dominance and submission, and/or politics and economics.
As you can see, there's so much more going on besides just the physical act.
If we are bringing all this and more into the bedroom, it’s no wonder some people experience issues or avoidance. In our sex-negative culture, these are difficult things to talk about.
I am here to help.
How can we work together to help you remove the obstacles that are interfering with you having a satisfying sex life?
Are you struggling to experience the pleasures in sexuality and eroticism?
Are you a sexual minority seeking a safe, nonjudgemental space to work on yourself?
Is there an aspect of your sexuality that is confusing to you and causing inner conflict?
Are you in a low-sex or no-sex marriage?
Are you reeling from learning of your partner's betrayal?
Do you or your partner have a sexual dysfunction like painful intercourse or erectile dysfunction?
All are welcome in my Santa Rosa office: LGBTQ+, straight, intersex, gender spectrum, kinky, poly, positive, all faiths, all abilities, SW.